Help!—Someone I Know Is Battling Anxiety

anxietySomeone you know is struggling with fear and anxiety and you are unsure of how to help.  That is totally understandable.  Did you know that one of the first things you should do is seek professional guidance?  I know that may sound a bit crazy, but let’s think about this for a minute.  If you have a problem with your car and you do not know the first thing about cars, what do you do…you call a professional (or at least someone you view as a professional in that arena).  Perhaps your issue is with plumbing, roofing, or building a new home…you get the picture, right?  In essence, getting professional help for their fears and anxiety is very important.

In addition, here are a few key pointers to help you help someone else:

  • Encourage them to take one day at a time
  • Place focus on the here and now (not past or future)
  • Overcome negative statements with positivity (replace don’t with do)
  • Visualize their happy place (i.e. beach, mountains, etc.)
  • Pray for them and pray with them

Take refuge in knowing that our God is stronger than any fear we may encounter.  His Word is filled with ways to help us overcome the day to day trials of life.  Be consistent and persistent with the person you are helping and remember, when things are beyond your scope of understanding or area of expertise, seek professional guidance.

Do remember to reach out to LAE-LAH Inc. and schedule your COMPLIMENTARY phone consultation.  Be Blessed.  Be Whole.  Be You.  signature

When your Child Presents with Abdominal Pain

child-and-abdominal-painI remember when my children would complain of tummy aches.  Did you know that tummy aches are one of the most frequent complaints in children?  Because there are many potential causes attributed with it, the challenge of properly diagnosing the problem increases for both the parent and the physician.  There are times when an immediate visit to the emergency room is warranted, then there are times when you just lay there with your child to help soothe the pain away.  Causes can be food related, infectious, bites, etc.  What do you do?

You find yourself sitting there wondering—is it bacteria or a virus, is it Gastroenteritis or the stomach flu, is it food poisoning or food allergies, is it just gas or did they eat too much?  What is happening to my baby?  Why is the cramping so severe?  Why won’t they stop crying?  Why won’t this medication work?  What am I supposed to do?!

Relax, take the pain serious.  You may need to make that visit to the ER to rule out anything major (i.e. appendicitis).  However, even if the pain subsides overnight, make sure you follow through with your child’s pediatrician to ensure your child is receiving the best possible care.  Again, welcome to the journey of parenthood.  It is a journey of love and rewards, which is also accompanied by pain and sleepless nights.  Continue to invest in the blessing which God has bestowed upon you.  Be Blessed.  Be Whole.  Be You.signature

Preserving Your Marriage with an Autistic Child

autistic-child-and-marriage-strainUnfortunately, in modern times, many marriages end in divorce or separation. This statistic rises even higher when you mix in an autistic child. No matter how loving and understanding you both may be towards your child, the truth is that autism is a very difficult matter, and strain on the marriage is not uncommon. By trying to stay positive about your situation, and by working to keep your marriage healthy, you and your spouse can avoid marital problems and hopefully survive the trying times of raising an autistic child.

Ask yourself—why did I marry my husband or wife? When you ask this question often, you begin to focus more on the good of your marriage, as opposed to the strains on your marriage.  Raising children within itself can be stressful, now add an autistic child into the midst.  Often times when we are stressed, we have the tendency to project our frustrations on others—typically those closest to us.  This projection may be onto a spouse, a child, or another loved one.

Instead of focusing on the frustrations, you and your spouse need to take some time to enjoy one another the way you did at the beginning of the relationship.  This may require spending some time away from your child.  You will need this “adult” breaks every once in a while, so make sure you have a strong support system and reliable friends or family who can properly tend to your child during times such as these.

Do not attempt this journey alone, work together with your spouse to help your child, instead of fighting with one another. It is possible that your ideas will differ, but it is not the end of the world.  Work toward a unified front for the sake of your child and your marriage.  Be prepared to compromise and always seek professional consultations before making any medical decisions for your child.  Remember that you are giving your child the best opportunities available to them when you work together.

Lastly, seek help when you need it. Part of any successful marriage is spending some time apart to focus on individual needs, and it is no different when you have an autistic child. However, if you find that you and your spouse are not happy unless you are spending time alone, it is time to reevaluate the situation. A family or marriage counselor can help you and your spouse get back on the right track to a happy life together. It might also be beneficial to meet other couples raising autistic children.  Be Blessed.  Be Whole.  Be You. signature